Welcome back to another installment in my Love Your Body Series! Be sure to read last week’s post about Battling the Scale.
I think it’s so important to be transparent in our feelings regarding these topics and speak the truth. I’ve already covered some topics, but there are more to come.
Today is all about celebrating your victories, your progress and you! Comparison is truly the thief of joy and it will rob you of self love so quickly. I talked a little bit about this in the Love Your Pace post, which was a tribute to the Boston Marathon but we are going to dive further today.
Progress in the Beginning
When I first started this journey to become a healthier person with healthy habits, I quickly got high on the progress on it all. I was happy to see how much I enjoyed eating more vegetables and was thrilled to be able to walk/run farther with each passing week. This was long before the days of Instagram mania. I was just pleased with my progress for progresses sake.
Everything happened really organically for me. I wasn’t trying to keep up with a community of folks, maintain a certain running pace or even meal prep. I just chipped away at my habits. I walked on my treadmill after work, did whatever workout I wanted and cooked whatever sounded good that was healthier than what I was eating before.
In many ways I think those days are gone. I think it’s hard for us to focus on finding our own path because we are constantly looking to someone else. I think social media has made it easier to be inspired by ordinary/average people, but I think that comes at a price.
We are constantly surrounded by images of people who look a certain way, eat a certain way, run a certain pace or workout a certain way. I think it’s great to see what others are doing if that might help you push yourself from where you are, but when you start comparing yourself to these people it’s a slippery slope. Let’s also not forget that social media is just a small snippet of that person’s life or day. It doesn’t show the struggles, the sweat or the tears.
There’s an ultra fine line where seeing what others are doing can push you to try new things and when you start comparing your efforts or progress with that person. When we compare our progress or goals to someone else’s we have to realize that they will look different and that is okay.
As a runner, I used to get caught up in looking at what others were doing and comparing myself to those people. I would look at their paces and weekly mileage with envy and sometimes forget my own goals. I had to remind myself that my journey is different than theirs and that’s the best part. I get to carve out my journey and my goals. I don’t have to rely on someone else to feel validated and worthy. I don’t have to measure myself against anything but yesterday.
You are unique with valid goals and valid progress. You may not be the fastest or the fittest, but you matter. Your growth matters. What might be easy for most might be challenging for you and that must be celebrated.
No matter how big or how small your progress seems, it’s yours and that’s enough. Celebrate the little victories. Maybe you ate an apple for lunch when you really wanted a soda or maybe you walked an extra couple minutes around the block this morning.
You don’t have to win an Olympic medal to be a winner. You just have to be better than you were yesterday. Maybe that’s something that can be measured and maybe it’s not.
Positive Self Talk
We have to be willing to love ourselves in order to truly be better. Sometimes that means getting back on the horse after you get bucked off. When things don’t go according to plan, we have to be courageous enough to push on from wherever we are.
Just as a recap.
- Only you can own your progress
- You matter
- Don’t compare yourself to others
- Love yourself
Do you find yourself basing your success on what others have achieved?